Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Real Housewives of New York: Carole's "Open Relationship" with Russ

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if I earned my million dollars!

Did anyone hear Carole say she had an open relationship with her then boyfriend, Russ Irwin, last season. Aviva heard it. I could swear I heard it. But, did it really happen or did we imagine it? This is the kind of controversy I love to get to the bottom of. Like most viewers, I love Carole and what she brings to the show: intelligence, wit, a calming influence, good sense, and humor. I love Carole, but I don’t hate Aviva. Aviva brings the drama. I feel some compassion towards her. Her life wasn’t all a piece of cake. She lost her leg, she lost her mother, she was married to Harry and she was raised by a sex maniac. So I am going to cut Aviva plenty of slack and if she is right about this open relationship I want to see it for myself and perhaps earn the million dollars Carole offered to anyone who heard her say she was in an “open relationship,” because she denies it ever saying it.

First of all, what is an “open relationship?” By definition, an open relationship is defined as a couple being in a committed relationship, but are free to “see” other people. What I remember Carole saying that when Russ was in town they were together and when he traveled they were free to “date” other people. But, let’s see if Aviva and I need our ears cleaned or a lesson in open relationships. What did other people hear? Let’s go back in time to before the controversy became a controversy . . .

In August 2012, “Wetpaint” says: “Carole Radizwell . . . her casual, seemingly open relationship with rocker Russ Irwin.” I wonder where they got that from?

In July 2012, “Starcasm” reports: “Carole Radziwill has been extremely open with the fact that her and Russ Irwin have an open relationship. Carole lives in New York City and Russ lives in Los Angeles, and it seems this unconventional arrangement works for them! When they are in the same city, they reunite and do normal boyfriend/girlfriend activities. When they are apart, they live as single people — they even go on dates! ‘Russ and I are dating, but that doesn’t mean I can’t go to dinner with another man, or meet someone else for drinks,’ Carole explains.” That certainly seems to fit the definition.

In June, 2012, writes: “But it don’t mean a thing to Carole, nor to Russ. They are adults in a long-distance, ‘cool, casual’ (which I guess just means open) long-distance relationship.”

In fact, if you Google Carole Radizwell and “open relationship,” you will get literally dozens of blogs all saying that Carole had an open relationship with Russ. Did we all make the same mistake as Aviva? Or, did Carole’s choice of words describing her relationship lead us all to believe the same thing? 

And then there’s the July 2012 article by the New York Daily News who interviewed Russ Irwin at the time and this is what Russ had to say: ““It’s not easy to date or to try to have a relationship when you’re on the road,” he says, “but Carole and I get along great, and we keep the relationship open, and that’s one of the ways we make it work.” So even Russ understood it was an open relationship!

Finally, the June 11, 2012 BRAVO Blog says: “Over furs, Carole gives Aviva in update about her dating life. She's in a "situation" with Russ. They date when he's around, but when he's on the road (playing AEROSMITH SONGS) they are their own people.” 

It seems to me the evidence is pretty conclusive that even if Carole didn’t use the words “open relationship,” everyone heard “open relationship.” Aviva and I don’t need our ears cleaned. We don’t need a lesson on open relationships. Carole needs to own what she said or implied because even Russ thought the relationship was open and wouldn't he know? What is right, is right. Aviva is right. Did I earn the one million Carole offered? I would love to collect it!

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